MkII Cortina Owner
Join Date: Oct 2001
Location: Sober in the Lucky (Newcastle)
Gravelrash - the correct response would have been "goodbye" once the old man starts getting narky. It aint gunna get better, and all he's going to do is whinge on, regardless of what you do.
So raise your hand, say "sorry, but I'm an adult, I deserve more respect than this", or something along those lines. Then leave. Nicely, and politely. Without the girl. The raking the old man is gunna get from his daughter afterward will be nothing short of horrific. And chances are, you'll be getting a phone call from the girl really soon.
You lose nothing, and you dont have to put up with cranky old men. I mean, why on earth should you have to put up with lectures about your "unsafe driving" by someone who's never seen it? The old guy has already decided your bad news, so if this girl becomes more than a date, youre going to have to continually deal with that perception. Cause you'll never change it.
I had this thing happen to me a few years back. I went to pick up a girl in the XY ute. VERY rumbling thing it was. Anyway, I get the same lecture. I politely raise my hand and say "sorry, but those things you accuse me of aren't true. Would you like it if I referred to you as a child molester?" The old guy was flabbergasted, jaw dropped open. I continued "You cannot make those kind of assumptions. I'm sorry (said to the girl), but we're not going on a date tonight. Goodbye, good luck"
I walked down the steps to the sounds of one hell of a fight, and before Id keyed the XY, the girl appeared at the passenger window, tears in eyes saying "dont go." I replied, "Sorry, maybe some other time." And casually left.
We ended up going out for 2.5 years. And the old man treated me with nothing but respect the entire time. Even when Manly beat Saints in the Grand Final (I'm Saints supporter, he was a Manly supporter), he never carried on like a narky old man again.
Oh and before I get "youre an a*seh*le", I treat anyone and everyone with the utmost respect - male/female/black/white/yellow/polkadotted. I am very careful not to injure (physically or mentally) anyone I meet. However, through the Prud's school of hard knocks (tm), I have learnt that unless you show backbone, you get walked on. And in cases such as this, the old man is not being polite, so why pander to him? So stand up for yourself. Show backbone, and a willingness to say "stuff it, your precious daughters not worth it." Its amazing what happens.
Besides, would you want your daughter going out with a doormat? Or someone that can stand up to the world a bit - they usually make better providers...
"Be sure to leave your underpants with someone you can trust"