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post #1 of 29 (permalink) Old 04-13-03, 07:03 AM Thread Starter
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Why does my heart feel so bad?


I have fancied my mates sister ever since i became mates with my best mate. I always had a suspicion that she was keen on me, but i was never sure.

Last night i had this 21st.

She was bored becuase she didnt really know anyone there, so im keeping her company and we are really getting along. I was having a great time and so was she.

So i decided it would be a good idea to chill in the falcon and listen to some Dr. Dre...we are both trashed at the mo. It got to one of those crossroads...it all falls silent and the thought enters my head. "I should probably pick her up now. "

And i didnt, because im not sure if its all worth it.

im kind of uncomfortable. I have been friends with this guy for years. I know his parents, etc etc. Why do i feel so shitty even though its just so right ?

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post #2 of 29 (permalink) Old 04-13-03, 07:30 AM
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tough situation mate. But i have been in it up to my ears and at the end the truth usual comes out.

I was keen on one of my sisters friends (similar situation, kinda) and we hooked up etc and went out for a while. The problem is however my sis lost her friendship, like you probably will, because the only time my sis saw my gf was when gf came over to see me. In the end their closeness was ruined because they never got to see each other and ultimately my sis never saw me, then i guess jealousy at both of us set in.

What im trying to say is that it's a difficult situation which you'll have to way up the pros and cons but all you can see now are the pros...

- Imagine going over to see your mate....she will be there should/will expect preference of your attention (she's a chick it's natural

- if you break up you lose ya best mate and your gf

My advice: If you are really keen, I mean like L word keen, then i reckon you should tell the girl first of how you feel, then tell ya mate if she feels the same. see how they both take it then if it doesnt work out, then no one was ever in the dark and you can still be cool with the bird


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I agree with subsbligh here, its too dangerous ground here - and should you ever have a stickey breakup with her, your best friend will come after you with a very large bat or worse. Ive seen it with some of my friends. So really its two options - lose a mate and eventually lose a gf (maybe it will last, who knows), or keep your mate and keep friendly with his sister. Hey, who knows, maybe it will sort itself out!
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Dude seriously if you want her and find out through either trickery or by asking ffs make sure she breaks it off before you start doing anything.
You will loose in every way possible if you cross your mate.
Crossing a mate doesn't hurt one mate you will loose the respect of all the people that find out.
Stealing another mans woman is as low as slapping a chick IMHO.

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Originally posted by carazy

Stealing another mans woman is as low as slapping a chick IMHO.
He's stealing his mates sister not his woman

You only live once, go for it
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I think you should go for it BUT...

You shouldnt have to give up a mate... talk to her about it, and still hang out with your mate! and if she gets all pissed off then she'll have to go... we can be understanding sometimes* :)
I have friend and me and her brother used to be quite friendly, but i am still friend with her to this day :)

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talk to your mate about it first. If he is ok with it then talk to her. If it doesn't happen for you then all should be ok regardless. Do not lie to anyone the truth ends up coming out anyway.

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What the hell is going on in this place? Shouldn't this be at www.cleo.com or whatever???????

By the way, grab it mate. You're only young once! If my best mate was after my sister I'd probably think it was cool because my mate would be a damn good guy.

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Originally posted by Aussie Pete
What the hell is going on in this place? Shouldn't this be at www.cleo.com or whatever???????
Didn't you know Fordforums.com invested heavily in relationship counceling services. Goes to show women topics are hot gossip as Ford Falcons around ere.

If both yous are feeling the same way for each other i don't see why you have to call it off. I'm sure if you two were serious i don't think your mate will be against it.

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go for it! don't let yourself regrret anything!!!!!
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