Thanks for the comments guys.
Chevy,
Didn't realise you meant a new model before. Had a look at the link (thanks) and it looks like a good piece of kit (440Nm at 1900 rpm -

).
Had our local fleet guy do some chasing - and it looks like it won't be on general sale until April-ish next year, so it's probably too late for me. There's also going to be a significant $ jump above the current model for all the smarts

Unfortunately it won't be at the Melbourne show, only the Sydney one (I'm in Melb).
The kids issue was mainly the way the wheel arches cut into the 2nd row door opening - making climbing in awkward even for them. The photos of the new model look like the wheelbase is longer, so that might not be a prob now.
ChrisB,
Our requirements are very close. I'm not so worried about the 3rd row, and coming out of an SS anything's got a softer ride, but the rest is spot on.
The Territory goodies-bag has been nicely worked out to make the choice difficult though... I take take or leave the leather, but the mix of climate control with rear-seat vents, curtain airbags, and memory seat with power pedals at the price makes things tough.
Pity Ford don't pubish pwr/torque curves (or not that I've been able to find), but the Territories i've driven don't seem to have that much grunt off the line.
Steve,
Unfortunately modifications are pretty much verboten (lease car etc). Several people here at work have the XR6T and I'd say it would probably make a good tow engine, but it is de-rated to 1600kg towing. Ford aren't saying why - but we're guessing it's because of the heat load in the engine bay when working hard. Presumeably it would be the same if they brought it out in a Territory?
Cheers
Ian