Definately go the Escape route, They just receieved a really high safety rating(don't know the exact #of stars off my head but I'm pretty sure it was higher than the RAV4). Our Escape is the Dark Highland Green XLT 4X4 the only options were step bars, and privacy glass, the 4X4's come with the 16 inch tires automatically.
there are only a couple of options left, 6disc in dash changer, and moonroof are about it I believe. could be others but I'm not sure. My wife loves it!:D We just got back from a weekend trip to the Smokey Mnts, about 700 mi, got 20-22mpg(hwy cruising at 75-80 mph with the AC on all the way), and there was 4 adults and a child in a car seat with 1 small complaint from the back about the car seat being in the way. If my son were old enough for the seat belt only there would have been 0 complaints.:D We now have around 1400-1500 miles showing with no problems at all, now we wish we had found one with the moonroof would've been a definate plus. I had a hard time finding 1 here the only 1's dealers had were trade ins or just came of the truck, mine came in and was on the lot not even 24hrs, just got lucky. Dealer said they are usually gone in about 2-6hrs. Let me know if I can help further. Jim