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..... If you are invited to a wedding, but have to work on the day of the wedding, to only turn up to the reception, but not the actual ceremony ?

Just would like to know before i decide what to do :)

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If you have to work then its not really your choice...


Look at it as "at least i'm trying to get there at all" instead of am I stooging them!
 

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It depends on whose wedding it is. i.e. family or friends.

If its family - then its usually obligatory to go.

If its friends - I guess work may take precedence over the ceremony.

Did you ask for time off straight away when the invitation was given? It all depends on how important you think this person is getting married and how he would feel.

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Wedding ceremony and reception are usually in 2 different places (requiring a drive between them), so no one would even really notice , unless its a very small wedding that you were not at the ceremony and only at the reception.

Just RSVP and say yes, make a note only reception if you want to, don't stress about it :0)

Having only gotten married about 12 months ago,I would have been happy for people who meant something to me to be invited in the first place, to have made the reception only if comitments made it that way, would be happy having them there, thats why I invited them in the first place.

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my sister did that at my own wedding. She only showed up at the reception and everyone at the ceremony was wondering where she was during the wedding photos. I didnt even know and it was quite embarassing trying to explain her where abouts. She showed up telling me she had to work or something. Which for all I know she was probably telling the truth. Still, for family invited, there really is no excuse (apart from accident or death) to miss your own brothers wedding, is there? Or for the fact that no notice was given. i.e. a phone call or message.

Like I said before, it depends on who the wedding is for. But remember its common curtisy to let the groom know your initial intentions 'if' you were formally invited so there is no confusion or irritation when you show up outta the blue. I think that would be fair to the bride & groom who are in the end, paying for your company to enjoy their special day.
 

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Funny.. I had a similar dilemma in November... And im in Adelaide.. And my name is Chris..
 

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Ha, I did this a few months ago

It was only my wife's friend though, I turned up half way through the ceremony (waited outside the church of course). SO I was there when they all came out to take photos and talk to everyone before they went off to take their wedding photos. I got hammered at the reception though, and had to go to Oran Park the next day for the V8's. and We Won!
 

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JADED6 said:
Funny.. I had a similar dilemma in November... And im in Adelaide.. And my name is Chris..
Then you know what I mean then? It must be Adelaide?!?!?!:huh:
 

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JADED6 said:
Funny.. I had a similar dilemma in November... And im in Adelaide.. And my name is Chris..

lol jaded6 .. must be something to do with Adelaide then ;)

Its my gf's cousins's wedding, so dont really know her all that well, asked the g/f's family last nite and they all said nah thats ok, just goto work and come to the reception hehe :)

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just goto the reception, aslong as your not involved in the main ceramony (photos, bringing something etc) then its all good :)
the part i hate is the endless hours between the ceremony and reception in most cases ;)
 

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lol jaded6 .. must be something to do with Adelaide then ;)

Its my gf's cousins's wedding, so dont really know her all that well, asked the g/f's family last nite and they all said nah thats ok, just goto work and come to the reception hehe :)

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I reckon thats ok if your like a friend of a friend. Just aslong as your not involved like EFFalcon said or immediate family. Plus you got the ok from the parents so its all good.
 

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Yeah i think you are right

Unlike the last wedding, i was best man, so would have been in deep crud if i didnt go to that ceremony hehe ;)
 

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fordel said:
..... If you are invited to a wedding, but have to work on the day of the wedding, to only turn up to the reception, but not the actual ceremony ?

Just would like to know before i decide what to do :)

Cheers

Chris
i dont think it would be all that bad. just make shure you get them a good wedding pressie lol.

i wouldnt be pissed off if that was the case at my wedding as long as everyone didnt do it.

id be happy that my freinds at least had the decency to turn up at all.
 

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As most have said, unless it's close family, it's quite ok.

I personally would rather do it that way as I can't stand going to churches......

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Don't be too worried about it....but make sure you tell the couple to be wed.

My sister is in a similar situation, except she is due to have a baby only a few days before a wedding...but her husband is the Best man so he has to go! She is slightly stressed.
 
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